PaREntS N TeeNs

was surfing channels and happen to come across a prog titled "PG" on suria. ok, i cant remember wat "PG" stands for.. it was in malay. so no surprises.

anyway.. this episode was abt how parents handle their teenage children. then it got me thinking... boy it's certainly not easy to be a parent. esp of hormone raging teenagers, trying to find some form of rootedness in who they are while trying to keep their hormones and sexuality in check.

so this episode (or probably the rest too, i duno, this is the 1st time im actually watching it.. in MALAY! wow. im so proud of myself. but then again, i've been more in touch wif my melayu these days. but that's another story.) was abt the different parenting styles with regards to their teen children having BGR. lol. been sooooooooo long since i used that term. and to think someone used that on me lately, GOSH! tu zaman kental siaaaaaaaaaa... when i saw her msg, "is it a BGR problem?" i almost burst into laughter. BGR eh... that is like so juvenile. den again. she's much younger. so i juz smiled to myself answering "sorta..." tho i wont call it "BGR". *shakes head.

it's interesting how some parents, or perhaps most parents, handle this whole thing. fr the super strict, cornering the child, giving curfew, confiscating the hp and limiting communication and all. how that i'm at this stage of life, i guess, the parents are juz being concerned and duh, all of us know, parents and child alike, studies should be your top priority. His mum used to tell him, "Umm... don't neglect your studies ah. Studies comes 1st." dat's not saying that she wanted us to break up or sth... juz that watever it is, if wanna haf a relationship, make sure your studies are not affected. i guess parents are concerned that if their child haf a r/s den thier studies wld be affected -vely coz less focus or spend less time on it. oh well.. perhaps they are right? or perhaps, the children can prove them wrong? come to think abt it, my parents never really said anything. den again, i dun really talk to them abt such stuff. do you?

well, at that point in time, let's really ask ourselves, how many of us haf used THAT as an excuse. or well... heard that as an excuse to get out of a relationship? The excuse... "it's not you, it's me. i don't think it's the right time. i need to concentrate on my studies." and leaving u asking... what the.. after all these months/yrs??? u suddenly decided that having a r/s is not for you? if u were so concerned abt studies, y even start in the 1st place? and the irony is... you actually do better than him/her after the brakeup. and worse, he/she gets attached to someone else. den u wld know... it's NOT abt studies. it hurts but hey, take pride.. at least u do better in your studies wifout him/her. ;) so does dat mean that our parents are right in the 1st place? Hmm...

My parents? well... like everyone else... it was a hush hush thing at first. LOL. hey.. being "open" is not eactly in my dictionary esp when dealing wif them. but it's nice to know that when they found out, they were pretty cool abt it. i guess i've gained their trust. I have been a goody-two-shoes all this while. or was i? *winks. if they knew.. they'd probably skin me alive. hey... like 99% of people in the world, i've done things i'm not proud of. i'm not a saint. are you?

being parents is not an easy task. they simply want the best for their children in every way possible and it's juz natural for them to protect us fr harm... only to lead us to the better gd. That is, their perception of "good" while ours might differ. but that doesnt mean we should be rude or anything towards them, and likewise, parents should probably cut us some slack. den again, wat do i know... i'm not a parent... yet.

for the teenagers out there who's in love which seems so real,
here's sth for you. hmm... ok, sth's wrong, cannot cut and paste. perhaps some other time.

for those who haf already gotten over the puppy love, teenage phase and are in for the "real" deal, here's sth for you. did i say i've been in touch wif my melayu self? here's some jual beli pantuns for you, by yours truly. Dun laugh! I really come up wif this on my own ok... tho might not be up to standard wif the additional eng word, but hey, it's a great achievement coming fr this melayu celup and i'm proud of it. lol. juz a little back grd, was talking to a fren abt MJ12 whereby there are some malay people who sends flowers wif dunno wat they jampi2 to the girl they want.

here goes,

Me:
Tadi pagi main layang-layang,
Terjatuh ia di kolam sana,
Jangan takut wahai cik abang,
Kalau dah jodoh takkan ke mana.

Jawapan (fr my fren):

Buat kek di dapur sana,
Kek bantut Cik Poet merana,
Yelah jodoh takkan ke mana,
Tapi kalo jodoh ngan those melayu cammana?

(*lol. 1stly, i still dunno wat bantut means. 2ndly, "those melayu" refers to those who uses hocus pocus techniques to get the girl.)

Me:
Hang tuah seorang laksamana,
Laksamana Melayu di dunia,
Bila choosing tu biarlah bijaksana,
Insya'Allah dapat yang mulia.

considering i use sejarah, hey tu markah bonus! LOL. ok... this pantun2 thing is juz not my thing and my brain went on an overdrive.

soo... pandai2 lah eh.. cik abang and cik adik di luar sana... :)